Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu,
Q: How should parents bring up their children according to the Prophet’s (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) childhood?
A: There are 5 main ways parents can bring up their children in accordance with the Prophet’s (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) childhood which are as follows:
1. Learning from the Elders
The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) used to observe his elders. The Prophet’s Grandfather, Abdul Muttalib, used to sit near the Kabah where the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) would join him to observe the conversations of Quraysh elders. We should engage our children in intellectual conversations and always show them that we are proud of them.
2. Language and fitness
The people of Quraysh used to send their newborns to learn the proper Arabic language and gain physical strength from a young age. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) was sent with Halima As-Sa’diyya (his milk mother) to Banu Sa’d where he gained his eloquence and strength. We should all strive to teach our children the language of the Quran and take care of their physicality. Sports is essential for our children’s development. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) practised archery, running and horseback riding.
3. Having a pure heart
Jibril (عليه السلام) washed the Prophet’s (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) heart in a vessel of gold that was filled with zam zam water. Then, he put it back together and returned it to its place (Sahih Muslim). We should perfect our children’s faith by letting them emulate the Prophet’s (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) pure character. The Quran states “And whomsoever Allah wills to guide, He opens his heart to Islam.”
4. Keeping ties of kinship
When the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) was about 6 years old, his mother Aaminah took him with her to Madinah to visit his maternal uncles. Teach your children the importance of family from a young age. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) wept while visiting his mother’s grave and moved others around him to tears (Sahih Muslim). We should teach our children to love their parents.
5. Reliance on Allah alone
Despite being an orphan and losing his grandfather at a young age, the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) lived to be the greatest of mankind. We should teach our children that Allah is the most merciful and loving and that they should rely on Him alone for all matters.
May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet (صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) and his family.
Checked & Approved by Molana Mohamed Aadil Saleh (Bradford, UK)